"Any time you're on a date and you notice that there are more than three common traits from your list, you don't give it another date.

After a rough breakup last January, I was sad and single in the Big Apple.

With some goading from a friend — who somehow convinced me that the stigma against online dating was no more — I joined Ok Cupid and started scanning the thousands of matches that popped up on my screen.In order to determine if a no strings attached relationship is the right choice for you, it’s important to understand the positive aspects of this kind of casual connection.1. One of the pros of having a no strings attached relationship is that while you get to enjoy a physical connection with another person, there’s no sense of obligation or commitment.Your role is not that of a boyfriend or girlfriend, and rather than providing emotional guidance and support, your time together is strictly physical. Along these lines, another positive aspect of a no strings attached relationship is that you don’t have to be monogamous. Many people involved in no strings attached relationships enjoy the thrill and excitement of this kind of connection with someone.In fact, a lot of single folks find apps to be hell on earth — an exhausting place where you're judged in the time it takes to swipe one way or the other. These things aren't for everyone, the same way walking up to a stranger in the park and asking them their sign isn't the way some folks care to do things.But the question is, how do people who hate apps actually go about meeting people? The price of dating 'organically,' so without an app, is that you have to learn to put yourself out there in the real world," says Carlen Costa, Ph D, a sexologist and psychotherapist based in Ontario, Canada.